Start with Deep Dive: Drum Sampler with Omari Jazz and Ivy Rossiter (84 min, Ableton), then AlphaTheta DDJ-GRV6 Review + Groove Circuit & Stems FX Demo (30 min, Digital DJ Tips). All 5 lessons here are free, from the teachers' own official uploads. You'll need practice pad and sticks, electronic drum kit, metronome (about $450 of kit). The book to keep beside you: Stick Control by George Lawrence Stone.
What you'll need
Practice pad and sticks: Quiet rudiment practice anywhere.
Electronic drum kit: Full kit, headphone quiet. - View on Amazon